I work with a colleague who is quick to distrust on the first error a person makes, hearsay, or sometimes something akin to jealousy, and often without knowing the full story.
Once distrusted he does his best to burn bridges with that person. This may mean not working with them or not turning up to an event because they might be there. If you mention their name, or ask if we should refer some work to them, you get a venomous reply of ‘no, find someone else, we are not working with them.’ I had an email forwarded from a potential contqact with just he word @I met this smug git today…’ Obviously on a GDPR level this could be a bit embarrassing if they should ever ask for any data/correspondence we hold on them!
I always find this frustrating, bewildering and a little short sighted. How can you limit your interactions with people in this way? What if you need their help in the future? Where does this anger come from?
However this attitude has started to bite back recently.
On a few occasions he has had to concede that the person in question is ok and that he didn’t know the background to why something happened. Or the need of the customer means that we need the support of the ostracised person. So perhaps we shouldn’t be too hasty in cutting all ties.
I have no problem of being wary of someone who keeps making mistakes, or whose working practices might not be as good as I would like. We all meet people we don’t rub along with. However to cut people out completely for such reasons to me shows a lack of patience, understanding and self esteem.
You never know when you will need their help, or how your actions have affected their view of you. And who are they talking to about it? How will reflect on you?
There will always be people who do do something very wrong, but make sure you have all the facts first before writing people off.
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